How to be cool
I'm no cool person in reality. These are just among the things that I do to mask the bundle of nerves that I am and trust me, these have worked out pretty well!
- Try to not over-apologize
Some of us often find ourselves apologizing, beyond the 'necessary' threshold. In most instances, when we resort to over-apologizing for the smallest mistakes we make, we unconsciously trick our mind into believing that we are indeed losers and inadvertently cause the individual we're dealing with to feel superior to us. Thereafter, you feel low in self-esteem and cringe at the thought of the uncool thing you had just did. This in turn casts a very uncool image of you in the eyes of most people. A common misconception held by some is that the more profusely you apologize, the more humble you are. But this is really just another untrue thing some of our uncool minds have in common. The truth is others would see you as being very vulnerable and -uncool. And that's just the point.
While it's okay to wear flashy or eye-catching outfits sometimes, doing it often is not the best thing to do. Instead, try and dress appropriately for the occasion. This way, you'll be able to find your niche and and not catch too many unwanted attention to be the odd one out.
- Try to be ahead of others but don't try too hard.
This is especially a win for me. Being ahead of others naturally invokes in the rest, a feeling of awe about you. You also get to be a little more relaxed in class or workspace compared to your peers or colleagues as you have prepped yourself for the challenges ahead of you. While the cramming and burning the midnight oil that happens backstage is nothing you want to tell others about, it's definitely worth it. People will envy you for your seemingly effortless charm and coolness.
Nothing beats the comfort in being in your own skin. But nobody is perfect, yes? So at the same time, try masking certain 'unpresentable' side of you like, take profanity for instance. As for the most part, just be yourself, as long as being what defines you is appropriate with the circumstances at hand.
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